A good friend of mine introduced me to Plato's
Allegory of the Cave. In the story, men are chained inside a cave and are only able to see shadows of puppets. To these men, shadows are reality. They know of nothing else in the world. One day, they are released from their chains and they see the fire and the puppet master. They discover fire but also realize that someone was creating the moving shadows they had previously thought was reality. And soon after, they leave the cave and are able to experience all that nature has to offer.
I think this story is phenomenal. It makes me think of my cave and my puppet masters. My parents and my environment are my puppet masters and have created my reality. I have learned in my childhood that an education, a job and family are all of extremely high importance. And if I have these things, I should be happy. Society in middle class America has also taught me that the self is very important, success is the goal, money buys everything, sex is great, popularity helps and an athletic body is attractive.
But what is reality? What is created by the puppet master and what is real? Yes, it is human nature to place value on societal values because we are social creatures and we should abide by social rules. But, some people get to a point of being neurotic. There exist people who place enormous value on certain things: appearances, success, name brands, masculinity, boyfriend/girlfriend, family, jobs, education, winning, being better than peers, etc. Some people get obsessed over appearances and go to the gym 4 hours a day or spend all of their free time shopping for clothes. People get obsessed over what others think about them. People get extremely stressed over test performance or jobs. Students have committed suicide over these issues. These are just illusions created some experiences that these people have had. Does the rest of the world care about the things you care about? Do you actually need XYZ in order to be happy? And if it's something that only a small percentage of the population has, then it's probably unnecessary.
Take a step back and see the puppet masters in your life. What are the shadows and what is nature? What do you believe that other people may not believe? What are illusions and what is reality?